Couples Counseling

All About Couples Counseling

Do we need couples’ counseling?

Almost every romantic relationship starts off on a positive note – joyful, intimate, and full of that “spark.”

And yet, so many couples find themselves growing more and more distant.  As conflict and argument become “normal,” many couples find themselves feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, and stuck.

Do you and your partner constantly fight and argue?  Have the two of you “grown apart” over the years?  Has cheating or infidelity led to a loss of trust and confidence in the relationship? 

It doesn’t have to be this way!

Couples counseling (also called couples therapy) helps people overcome some of the most common relationships problems:

  • Poor communication
  • Frequent fighting or arguing
  • Major life decisions
  • Family stress
  • Sex and intimacy
  • Financial stress
  • Differences in beliefs
  • Difficulty with childrearing and fertility

Couples counseling is different from traditional psychotherapy – you and your partner meet together with a counselor to help you overcome whatever struggles your relationship is facing. 

I created the ‘Your Growth Counseling’ site because I believe that every relationship deserves a second chance.  I provide couples counseling services for people from all over Los Gatos, San Jose, Sunnyvale, and Santa Clara – people just like you.

How will couples counseling help our relationship?

Every healthy romantic relationship is founded on three things: trust, intimacy, and commitment. 

Trust is all about reliability and confidence in your partner.  Healthy partnerships have high levels of trust in one another, which makes the relationship feel secure, safe, and steady.  When the relationship experiences a violation of trust, such as an affair, the feelings of trust, security, and safety quickly disappear.  Couples therapy can help the two of you work through those sorts of challenging experiences.

Intimacy includes both physical and emotional closeness.  It is common for romantic relationships to struggle with physical and sexual intimacy – the relationship may lack the old “spark.”  Or, perhaps there are barriers to being vulnerable and open with one another.  Therapy can provide insights into issues with intimacy and help couples discover a deeper connection with one another.

Commitment is the degree of dedication and investment each member of the relationship provides.  This may not necessarily mean marriage or legal partnership, but rather it is the intentional effort made to maintain the standards and expectations of the relationship.  Relationships that have low levels of commitment tend to feel shaky, uncertain, and “temporary.”  This can lead to one or both partners acting in selfish or self-centered ways, such as cheating or underprioritizing the relationship.  Therapy is designed to help you overcome difficulties with commitment by engaging in difficult and open conversations about your goals as a couple.

Although trust, intimacy, and commitment are incredibly important, none of them tend to last without effective communication.



Communication is at the heart of all relationships – which is why couples counseling is so incredibly effective.  Couples counselors are able to observe patterns of communication, identify problems, and offer solutions to help you and your partner work well as a team. 

If you and your partner have issues with commitment, trust, intimacy, or communication – don’t wait!  Contact me today to learn how, together, we can get your relationship back on track. 

What does couples counseling look like?

Each session is completely confidential and specifically tailored to meet your goals as efficiently and effectively as possible.  You, your partner, and I will meet together to work as a team as we rebuild your relationship.  As we work together, you will learn how to communicate well, identify disruptive patterns, and work better as a unit.  I work hard to help everyone feel supported by maintaining a non-judgmental stance while focusing on restoring connection and providing healing.   (Right now, 100% of my meetings are via a Zoom video link.)

The first meeting is called the “intake interview,” during which I ask the two of you questions about your relational story and what might be contributing to the problem.  This gives us a chance to get to know each other a bit better and answer any questions you might have before moving forward with therapy.

Based on this information, I am then able to provide helpful feedback and initial recommendations as we put together an effective strategy for enhancing your relationship.  Next, we will meet regularly for couples’ therapy, which is where the real change happens.  I utilize techniques from Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) to maximize your awareness of interpersonal emotions and interactions as we build your ability to work well as a couple.

As you and your partner begin couples counseling, you will learn how to:

  • Be vulnerable and honest with one another
  • Provide empathy, compassion, and comfort
  • Use self-care tailored to each member
  • Work through difficult feelings of hurt and confusion
  • Communicate needs and have those needs met
  • Discuss goals for the family and make practical decisions together
  • Establish new rules and norms

Whatever your struggle, whatever your goal, I want to help you succeed

Contact me today and, together, we can make it happen.

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6591 Little Falls Drive
San Jose, CA 95120
(408) 831-2974

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